One thing I’ve been trying lately is to really enjoy and cherish my time before I fall asleep. I struggle with bedtime and sleep anxiety, and the moments when I’m lying in bed before I fall asleep are the times when my brain runs wild. Everything from the day and everything from the day ahead swims around my brain and I can’t help but worry about… everything. Literally everything. With that being said, I have found that making myself feel good before I crash into bed has helped with making bedtime a time I enjoy, rather than a time I dread.
Here are some things I’ve been doing lately and that I definitely recommend.
Take off your makeup, wash your face, moisturize
I feel like this may be kind of obvious, but it’s something that I skip out on… a lot. I can’t tell you the amount of times I go to bed and wake up the next day looking like a raccoon because I didn’t take my makeup off.
Lately I have been making it a kind of ritual where the first thing I do to get ready for bed is take my makeup off, wash my face with a cleanser for sensitive skin, and then moisturize. It signifies the beginning of my morning routine
Get into the comfiest of clothes
Another no brainer, I know. I used to just wear my day clothes until I went to bed because (tmi) I only sleep in my underwear. But, GUYS. What did I do to myself that I thought I deserved the punishment of being uncomfortable until I went to bed? Recently I have been counting down the hours until I can put on soft clothes. As soon as I know I’m not leaving the house I’m in pjs.
Tidy your area
Nothing is worse than waking up to a sink full of dishes or to a load of clean laundry that needs folding. Doing these things before you go to bed will ensure an easy morning. Besides, less time spent doing dishes means more time for coffee. And coffee is very, very important.
Dim the lights
Get your environment to match the way you want to feel before bed. I shut all of my overhead lighting off and use lamps, string lights, and candles to make me feel cozy before it’s time to go to sleep.
Make a warm beverage
If you like tea, drink tea! But try to stay away from green tea, black tea, or any that contains caffeine. I like to drink chamomile because it’s a natural herb that helps you to relax. Last night I drank hot chocolate because I was feeling extra cozy and wishing for fall. A warm beverage always does the trick to get me feeling sleepy.
About an hour before it’s time to hit the hay, I’ve been trying to limit my screen time. Instead of scrolling through facebook or Instagram, I try to read at least one chapter of any current book that I’m reading. Currently I am reading the perfect girlfriend by Karen Hamilton.
Plan for tomorrow
I know, the last thing you want to think about before bed is the long to do list for the next day. But putting it all down on paper helps you to realize that the list isn’t as long as you may have thought it was, and that it’s all doable. I find if I don’t do this, I stress about having so much to do and no plan of attack
The only thing you need to do right now is sleep
I actually said this to my boyfriend last night. He was worrying about money, about everything he needed to do for school, about work etc. I told him the only thing you need to do right now is sleep. You can’t do anything about the big problems right now, so don’t worry about them. I tell myself this almost nightly, when the inevitable worry comes pouring in. Making bedtime a ritual and doing things that feel good has helped but I still get anxious, and this is something I must tell myself to allow myself to fall asleep.
Listen to a guided meditation or the sound of rain
I used to do this all. Night. Long. But now my ears don’t like when I wear headphones. So now, I just do it before bed. I’ll get into bed and find a good guided meditation on my phone, close my eyes, and just listen and breathe. This helps a lot. It puts me in the right mindset to relax and get some zzzz’s.
Bedtime sometimes feels like something we don’t need to put effort into. It’s just time to go to sleep, what’s so special about it? But I believe it’s just as important as a good morning routine, especially when you struggle with sleep anxiety and anxiety in general.
What do you do for a bedtime routine? Let me know in the comments!
And as always
Take care of yourself,